Last week I had the pleasure of attending the debut LearnVest Live. I signed up for LearnVest last year but hadn’t yet fully explored all it had to offer. The idea of it sounded great and I need all the money management knowledge I can soak up so I joined and then promptly put it on the back burner :-/. When I got the email that LearnVest is committed to helping everyone get financially confident in 2015, the flame was rekindled and in the spirit of 2015 being my best year yet, I decided it was time to tackle my finances head on with LearnVest there to help guide me. This event was created to help everyone put their best foot forward with a lecture from founder Alexis von Tobel at 1776. Seems like everyone got them memo that it was time to get right cause it was a PACKED audience but like a good little scholar you can see me right up front!
Now initially I decided to attend this event out of need not necessarily with the most excitement. I mean we all want more money but rarely is the road to get there enjoyable. I feel like many people view money management like a trip to the dentist, hated but required. But much like our teeth, if you ignore the holes or problems, you will lose it all. Not my most eloquent line but you get the idea. So I realized I need to stop ignoring my financial snags and face them, head on, with some help and my big girl pants. Also armed with some tacos and wine, which definitely helped to butter everyone up.
I love that Mark Ronson and Bruno Mars are taking it back to a different musical sound with Uptown Funk!! It makes me want to dance and just be happy so here they are on the voice, just a little something to make your Monday bright!! Happy Holidays Everyone!!
So I have been watching all of the crazy back and forth around the Sony attacks and the “terrorism” from North Korea and the entitlement of some Americans never ceases to amaze me. *Gets out soap box, dusts if off, places it down, climbs up, and takes a deep breath cause no one’s gonna like this one but I DON’T CARE*
So let’s start with the interview, a film about two fluff journalist who have captured the attention of America by doling out pop culture drivel as news (about for example, and I am quoting this directly, Nicki Minaj’s vagina – sorry not real news). The “nice guy” has an awaken after their 1000 episode (and being called a massive sell out) and whines to the “cute one” about wanting to be real journalist and after trying to convince the “nice guy” that “they hate us cause they ain’t us”, but then in a twist, the leader of North Korea is also a fan and wants the to interview him. Finally a chance for some real news!!! Then cut scene to massive rave like party, wake up bras everywhere to the CIA on your door asking you to take out, no not to dinner, like take out… TAKE OUT the leader of North Korea. Wait is this movie about KILLING A WORLD LEADER?!?!
Yes you heard me correctly!
So I have been all over the place with recent events, national and personal losses and a nation that should be in crisis but instead many are still stuck in denial. I’ve waded through story after story and piece after piece but than I went down a rabbit hole and found some joy. Sometimes it’s the little things and the children remind us of that. A little boy was auditioning for a talent show in China, when asked why he dances, this was his response:
Clearly cause you are so freaking cute!!
This is where it got interesting though:
We all got dreams!
Wait for it!!
So Beyonce did it again!!! Dropped another song and video on us unannounced (that or I haven’t been paying attention?! But I’m usually up on the beehive buzzing so I doubt I slept through that)
So 7/11 just fell out of the sky and I wasn’t sure how I felt… I mean I LOVED her visual album but this was different. Than when I listened to it the second time, I decided to stop analyzing and get up and dance and then I loved it!!! I mean it’s the song you would make up kicking it with your girls and dancing to a hot beat and it’s just fun!!! I choose to view it as ironic like you can just have a fun song to a sick beat instead of most of this insulting shit on the radio. I also love that she tripped on her own foot and then made her own wind with the hair dryer. It was just fun!!! So shut up, get up, shake your ass and be happy.
Sigh yeah I’m gonna talk about it… you don’t have to listen but I have to say it. WHY ARE YOU MAD?!?!?!
I went to a dinner with friends this weekend, some old, some new but all instantly friends thanks to our wonderful host. We talked about life, love, everything such as our cultural obsession with KK’s booty, our ignorance to the going ons around the world, there was definitely a group Tinder session and some talk about Ferguson. We all agreed that we are over the K word and would be happy if they would fade into oblivion. We discussed Hollywood being created as a distraction from the negative in the world and how it still plays that role today. We hit a snag when we got to Ferguson. To give you some background to the group dynamic, it was a group made of mainly minorities in various ways. Some guests were racially diverse, some cultural and some varied in sexual orientation but I felt that we all have varied understandings of facing discrimination. Now I am not one to put weight into someone’s experience. I do not have it tougher cause I’m black than someone who is gay. We both struggle, just in different ways and with different responses. I will say though that unless you are incredibly fair or ambiguous, there are certain traits that are on display for the world to judge. This affects our privilege. I really like this Buzzfeed article on privilege, it keeps it simple, easy to understand and gives you a visual.
This is what scandals are made of. Over the summer, I met a young man in the vineyard, who told me a funny little tale about an app called Yik Yak and how he played a part in it’s rapid fired spread and crash in Chicago. We’ll call him Warren. Warren went with a group of high schoolers to attend a conference for other mature bright students like himself. They had a great time sharing ideas and Yik Yak was used as a public message board to enhance their conference experience. Yik Yak allows users to post anonymous messages to others who are located nearby. There is no monitoring and no rules. I imagine you are starting to see where this is going. Excited and ready to share, these conference goers brought the app back to the masses at school and EVERYONE downloaded it instantly as the kids do. And then it began… Teens discovered that this was the digital version of writing on the bathroom walls and began leaving messages about each other. Being teens, most of the messages were not nice.
I truly believe that part of our nature is modeling the behavior that we see. This is how we learn to survive, operate and thrive. So what happens when what we see isn’t positive? Doesn’t teach us the right way? Or models all the wrong behavior? I am starting to realize I am what I watch and as much as I love me some ratchet television, I am wondering what pathways and beliefs are being strengthened in my heart and mind?
On Spicy Candy DC, I talked about our night at the Washingtonian Style Setters events. While we had a lot of fun, I want to recap the event from an events perspective this time.
Let’s talk about some things they did right:
- The style setters were a great mix of males and females that march to their own drummers and dare to break the rules.
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Are you surprised?!? Those that know me well know I talk too much so I’ve decided not to fight it. Thanks to some sounds advice from the first #CapFabbAcademy panel and from a talk with Demetria Lucas of A Belle in Brooklyn, I have rediscovered my voice and it’s pretty loud, I guess stifling it only makes it come back louder. Thanks to the Belle it is now louder with a purpose.
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